Being desired is not the same as being valued.

Don’t confuse these two.

Hi there,

This month, we’re talking about intimacy, sex, wants, and needs — whether you’re dating or in a long-term relationship. And I promise that, like always, I’ll be direct and honest with you. (How many of us could use some more honest communication about intimacy?)

This week, I want to focus on those of us dating and looking for a relationship. I’m constantly frustrated by the lack of conversation around intimacy and desire outside of relationships — as if the single life doesn’t involve complicated, difficult issues when it comes to sex.  

Navigating desire can be especially complicated when we’re dating. It can influence our thinking about potential partners and about ourselves.

Because the truth is that to be desired is not the same thing as being valued. And knowing the difference is absolutely crucial. It’s a dating game-changer.