Don’t settle.
When it's not enough.
Hi there,
Tell me if this sounds familiar: You meet someone new, and the chemistry is instant and intense. The conversation is easy but not shallow — it feels totally natural to share feelings and experiences. It’s suddenly effortless to tell them things you’ve never said out loud or even to yourself, and you feel emotionally seen. The intensity is rare and unique, and you’re totally lit up.
Maybe it’s the level of intense connection you’ve been looking for, or maybe it mirrors a connection from your past that feels like coming home. You feel totally bonded to this person, even if not much time has passed. After all, you see each other. A connection that strong must mean something.
But before long, you notice a pattern. Maybe they stop returning your texts with any consistency, or they go from being totally engaged with you to being distant at the drop of the hat. Plans get postponed. You’re always the one reaching out. They say the right things when you bring it up — how busy they are, how much they like you, how they’re just figuring things out.
Anxiety and confusion creep in. But because the connection felt so special, you stay.
I want to help you understand why this pattern is so common, especially for people who are emotionally attuned, empathetic, and deeply craving intimacy. And I want to demystify connection to help you pick people who are most likely to give you what you need and deserve.
Let’s get into it.