Healing the abandonment wound

Going deep.

Hi there,

I’ve spent years of my career learning about and working through abandonment wounds — and I see how an unhealed abandonment wound can ripple out into so many areas of our lives.

Abandonment wounds are common. And they’re entirely understandable: The Buddha says, life is suffering. And a large part of our suffering comes from attachment, since nothing is permanent. This is the greatest human conundrum: When we love anything, we don’t ever want to let it go. When we’re happy, we want to stay happy. And when we’re in love with someone, our greatest fear is that someday, they’ll stop loving us. Because to lose love or connection can feel as painful as a death. 

It’s not something to pathologize. It’s just something we live with as human beings.

But sometimes, the fear of abandonment can stop us from truly living — and loving. 

Today, I want to dig deep into abandonment wounds — and outline a path forward for healing.

Let’s get into it.