How I Regulate My Nervous System

This is life-changing.

Hi there,

What I’ve learned through years of personal work and through working with thousands of people is that regulation starts in the body. Our nervous system and our emotional life are not separate. They are constantly communicating with each other, shaping each other, influencing how we interpret and respond to the world.

When my body feels good, my mind feels good. When my body is depleted, overstimulated, or dysregulated, my thoughts become faster and more reactive. The same is true in reverse. When my mind is overwhelmed, my body tightens, my breathing becomes shallow, my digestion shifts, and my sleep is affected.

So when I talk about regulating my nervous system, I’m not talking about forcing myself into a calm state. I’m talking about increasing its capacity, so it becomes more resilient. A toned nervous system recovers more quickly. It doesn’t spiral as easily. It doesn’t stay stuck in fight, flight, or freeze for as long. Over time, this creates mental and emotional resilience, which is what makes me less reactive and more grounded in my daily life.

Here’s how I regulate, and how I’ve taught thousands to regulate too: