The Dating Advice That’s Keeping You Single

Why modern dating is broken

Hi there,

I want to say something that I think most people already know, but nobody is actually acting on.

Dating right now is shallow and filled with insecurity. There is a massive, almost comical gap between how badly people want real connection and how little they are actually willing to do to create it. Everyone is starving for something genuine and simultaneously doing everything possible to avoid being the one who admits it first. Everyone is waiting for the other person to show vulnerability first, to express interest first, to take the risk first…and because both people are waiting simultaneously, nothing real ever begins.

I see it constantly. The carefully crafted text that took forty-five minutes to write because it needed to seem effortless. The deliberate delay before responding, because responding immediately apparently means you care too much.

We have built an entire dating culture around a performance of indifference. The person who cares less has power. The person who shows their hand first is exposed. And so everyone keeps their hand hidden, and the game continues, and nobody wins anything worth having.

And we wonder why nothing feels real.

Let’s get into it.