The Highly Sensitive Giver
How to channel your gift
Hi there,
So many Love Weekly readers have written in to ask about healing their partners — about fundamentally changing the way their partners behave.
I know that so many of you have heard the tough truth that we simply can’t fix our partners — no matter how much we love them or bury our own needs to tend to theirs. But that truth doesn’t necessarily break a pattern, and I want to help you move through to the other side today.
I’m going to demystify this pattern — the I can heal my partner dynamic that many sensitive people co-create with our partners — and get to its actual root, based on my own personal experience and years of working with people trapped in this cycle. We’re going to dig deep on your need to heal — and figure out how to better show up in relationships without repeating this dynamic.
If the pattern of fixing or healing partners sounds familiar to you, you might be what’s called a “wounded healer.” It’s a Jungian archetype that describes a person who has been through significant pain or trauma — and/or is a “highly sensitive person” — and because of what they’ve gone through and their uncanny proclivity for empathy, they’re especially compassionate about other people’s pain. What’s more: They want to help others heal. And they usually do — but not in personal relationships.
Let’s get into it.