Sometimes, we just need to know when to call it.

It's about knowing when to leave them.

Hi there,

This month, we’re going to talk about leaving — when it makes sense to end a relationship, what leaving can give you, and how to grow when a relationship ends. It’ll be a month of tough questions and hard truths, and there will be new beginnings on the other side.

If you’re in a long term relationship — with kids and a shared life — ending a relationship is infinitely more complicated. And I almost always recommend people work together in counseling before deciding to separate. So, I’m talking today to those of us anywhere between the first date and the first year. 

Who we choose to be in a relationship with — especially after the age of 30 — is one of the most important choices we’ll ever make in our entire lives. In fact, I believe that if we take all the important decisions we have ever made, they will never add up to be as important as who we decide to spend our lives with. And yet, people — including my younger self — don’t take this decision as seriously as they should. They leave it up to the “spark.” What’s more: So many of us don’t listen to our intuition and push that inner voice to the side. 

Today’s message is about what to do when you’ve tried to make something work, and it’s just not right. It’s an action plan for understanding where things are going wrong. And it’s a set of questions to help you build your discernment about when to stay and when to just call it already. 

Let’s get into it.