Why I Broke Up with a Good Person

I'm getting personal.

Hi there,

We’re taught to look for the “good ones.” The ones who are kind, ethical, emotionally safe. We’re told that’s the foundation, the baseline — and it’s true. Partnering with a good person is non-negotiable.

But here’s what nobody tells you: Just because someone is a good person doesn’t mean they’re the right partner for you.

This is the part that’s tricky. Because when someone is a good person with several good attributes, it’s much harder to justify why it’s not working. If they’re cruel, neglectful, dishonest — it’s obvious. But what if they’re caring, principled, and well-intentioned, and still, something in you knows this isn’t it?

Years ago, that’s exactly where I found myself.