It’s time to fix your picker.

It’s the only way to find love.

Hi there,

We’re talking about finding your partner this month — the right partner. And we all have a sense we use when we meet someone — it’s the way we assess whether or not someone is worth pursuing. 

It’s called your picker, and many, many people have had to fix it at some point in their lives. If you have a pattern of being drawn to people who are unavailable, noncommittal, unhealthy, toxic, or just the wrong match for you — basically any of the qualities I’ve listed here — it’s time to look at your picker. Because if you keep getting hurt and your needs go unmet, your picker probably needs an upgrade — or a down-to-the-studs renovation.

Let’s get into it.