The Difference Between Your Intuition and Your Anxiety
Here’s how you can tell.
Hi there,
Before I get into the difference between your intuition and anxiety, I want to say something that doesn’t get talked about enough:
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Is it your gut or your anxiety? This is one of the questions I get asked most. And I wanted to revisit this today because learning to distinguish between intuition and anxiety will change your life.
Let’s get into it.
One of the most misunderstood aspects of human intelligence is the quiet voice we call intuition. It’s easy to confuse it with anxiety — the restless hum of anticipation, the fear of making the wrong move, the sense that danger lurks somewhere we can’t yet see.
Both sensations live in our bodies. Both can feel urgent and can make us feel like we have to act right now. But one emerges from calm awareness, and the other from a survival alarm.
There’s danger in getting these two signals confused.
Anxiety is the body’s alarm system — not a truth teller.
Anxiety originates in the amygdala, our brain’s ancient alarm center. When it senses uncertainty, it triggers a cascade: the heart races, muscles tense, breath shortens. Blood flow shifts away from the prefrontal cortex — the area responsible for reasoning, empathy, and long-term perspective — and rushes toward regions primed for fight or flight.
When you’re in this state, your body is not interested in truth. It is interested in safety. Its messages are loud, repetitive, and fear-based: Don’t go. Don’t trust. Don’t move.
If intuition is a whisper, anxiety is an alarm bell. It shouts until you do something to make the discomfort stop.
But anxiety’s job is to protect you, not to guide you. And if you confuse that anxiety for intuition, it will guide you toward safety, not growth. Not your true needs.
Today, I want to help you learn to tell these two signals apart. I’m going to break down the exact difference between intuition and anxiety inside our nervous systems and walk you through three simple, everyday exercises to help foster your sense of intuition, so you can let it guide you forward without fear.
True intuition arises when the nervous system is regulated — when your body feels safe.
Neurologically, intuition is associated with activity in the insula (which monitors internal sensations) and a quieting of the prefrontal cortex. That’s why intuitive insights often arrive when you’re not actively trying to solve anything, like during a shower, a walk, meditation, just as you’re waking up, or when you’re on the edge of sleep.
In those moments, your analytical mind relaxes. The ego loosens its grip. The brain’s default mode network, responsible for self-referential thought, becomes less dominant, allowing deeper associative networks to surface. You experience a glimmer: a felt sense that something is right or wrong, often before you can explain why.
Intuition is subtle. It doesn’t flood the nervous system with cortisol. It lands softly, like a pebble dropped into still water, creating gentle ripples that expand outward.
The difference is the state, not the thought.
Most people think intuition is a kind of thought. It isn’t. It’s a movement of energy that arises when the mind is still, and the heart is open. Anxiety, on the other hand, is also a movement of energy, but one that comes from fear. It rushes, tightens, contracts, and tries to move out.
The difference between the two isn’t in what they say. It’s in the state of consciousness from which they arise.
So how can you tell if this feeling is intuition or anxiety? The most reliable answer lies in your body, not your logic.
When it’s anxiety, the signal feels charged: your heart races, your chest tightens, your stomach knots. The body is preparing to act. When it’s intuition, the body is quiet. There may be a momentary flutter, but underneath it is steadiness. The information feels clean.
Remember, you can’t access intuition from a dysregulated state. The nervous system must first return to balance. Only then does our deeper intelligence reveal itself.
You can’t force intuition any more than you can force sleep. But you can create the conditions for it to arise.
Here are three simple, tried-and-true ways to make space for your intuition. I swear by these exercises.
1. Practice Savasana.
In yoga, Savasana — or “corpse pose” — is the final posture of complete surrender. You lie on your back, palms open, breath relaxed, eyes closed. When I commit to practicing 15–20 minutes every day, it melts stress away from my mind and body. It is incredible. The truth is, Savasana is a powerful regulator of the nervous system. When practiced, it tells the body: You are safe. You can release vigilance.
Here’s what to do:
Lie face up and flat on a mat or soft surface.
Let your feet fall outward, and your shoulders drop heavy.
Close your eyes. Breathe slowly in and out through your nose. Imagine gravity pulling you gently into the earth.
Stay for at least ten minutes, perhaps longer if you need more time to let go.
You may notice small waves of emotion or thought. Allow them. Your only task is to remain present to what arises. In this stillness, the prefrontal cortex quiets. The parasympathetic nervous system activates. Often, after Savasana, one’s intuition is strong. Listen.
2. Engage your vagus nerve.
The vagus nerve is the highway of the parasympathetic system, the body’s “rest and digest” network. When stimulated, it slows the heart rate and calms inflammation.
You can activate it through simple techniques:
Long exhalations (inhale for 4-8 counts, exhale for 8)
Gentle humming or chanting
Splashing cold water on your face
Placing a hand over your heart and breathing slowly into your hand
Each of these signals safety to your body. Over time, you strengthen what neuroscientists call vagal tone, which improves your ability to move out of anxiety and into grounded awareness.
3. Cultivate spacious attention.
In a world that rewards reactivity, intuition requires spaciousness. I make sure to take regular pauses in my day, what I call micro-moments of mindfulness. When you feel the impulse to check your phone, take one conscious breath instead. When you notice tension in your jaw, unclench.
Spacious attention is not about zoning out; it’s about tuning in. When you slow down enough to sense your inner world, you begin to differentiate between the noise of fear and the signal of truth.
Einstein once said, “The intuitive mind is a sacred gift and the rational mind a faithful servant.” Most of us have built our lives around the servant. We analyze, measure, and quantify, which of course are all useful and important skills. But the intuitive mind operates on a different frequency: relaxation and detachment from outcome.
When you cultivate nervous system balance, you strengthen your intuition. You notice how it often arrives when you’re doing something ordinary: tying your shoes, stirring tea, walking the dog. It is not grand or mystical. It is available in every moment you are present enough to hear it.
If you are seeking intuition, your task is not to hunt for answers. It is to create space for your deeper awareness to emerge.
Practice stillness, breathe deeply, rest in Savasana. Let the noise settle.
And remember: Your intuition is not hiding from you. It’s simply waiting for your nervous system to remember what safety feels like.
Love,
Jillian
Hi are you saying then that if you are in a relationship that feels unsafe and your intuition sends you images of drowning, that in fact that's anxiety not intuition? Because I thought intuition could show you red flags. But that would go against your point that it can only come from a place of safety. Thanks