Situationships, green flags, and dating yourself

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Hi there,

I’m off this week traveling for work, but I wanted to send you this quick note of appreciation for reading Love Weekly. I love receiving your messages and comments, and I’m so proud of this community.

I’ll be back next week, but in the meantime, here are four posts to catch up on if you missed them.

1. How to move on after a situationship

Some of the worst emotional pain can come from a situationship — an undefined, intense relationship — ending. It’s a complicated kind of grief — and one that can reveal deeper wounds within us. Intense, short-lived relationships can leave us utterly devastated — just as much or sometimes, even more so than the ending of a marriage or a long partnership. Read more.

2. Sometimes, we just need to know when to call it.

Who we choose to be in a relationship with — especially after the age of 30 — is one of the most important choices we’ll ever make in our entire lives. In fact, I believe that if we take all the important decisions we have ever made, they will never add up to be as important as who we decide to spend our lives with. And yet, people — including my younger self — don’t take this decision as seriously as they should. They leave it up to the “spark.” What’s more: So many of us don’t listen to our intuition and push that inner voice to the side. Read more.

3. The green flags they must have

One thing I want to make really clear is that we’re talking about green flags in potential partners and in ourselves. Green flags aren’t just a checklist of things to like in a potential partner.  It’s a way of assessing your own behavior in dating, too. It’s a way of seeing how the two of you will create a relationship together — and how both of you are likely to show up. Read more.

4. Date yourself.

I don’t want to discourage anyone who wants a relationship from accepting and honoring that desire — but before any of us can look outward, we absolutely must develop our relationships with ourselves. We have to date ourselves with openness and curiosity. It’s the key to both attracting a partner and sustaining a relationship. Read more.

Love,
Jillian